The Secret of Singing That No One Ever Tells You

People love to talk about singing technique. And rightly so—things like posture, breath support, tone placement, diction, and phrasing really do matter. I am a pretty big fan of doing it right! Mastering these elements can help you control your voice and sing with consistency and confidence.

But there’s one secret about singing that hardly anyone talks about—something deeper, something that can’t be taught in scales or drills.

Singing is more about trust than talent.

You can have all the training in the world, but if you don’t trust your voice, you’ll never truly sing with freedom. I’ve seen it time and again—singers with beautiful tone, good ears, and a strong technical foundation... but their voice never fully comes alive. Why? Because they don’t trust themselves. They hold back, second-guess, overthink, and stay in the safety zone.

And here’s the hard truth:
If you don’t trust your voice, your audience won’t either.

I’ve been singing and coaching others for decades. I’ve taught people with zero formal training and people with years of lessons under their belts. Across the board, one of the biggest turning points is always the same—it’s when a singer finally stops trying to sound perfect and starts letting go. Not carelessly, but courageously.

Trust doesn’t mean abandoning technique. It means submitting your technique to something bigger: expression. Intention. Conviction.

It means trusting your breath to carry the note.
Trusting the note to land.
Trusting that even if it cracks or quivers, there’s still beauty in it.

It’s a funny paradox—singing well requires control, but it also requires release. And finding that balance is often what sets great singers apart.

Sometimes the moment a voice opens up isn’t when someone learns a new trick—it’s when they stop apologizing for how they sound. When they stop trying to sound like someone else. When they start believing there’s something worth sharing as they are.

So yes—take the lessons. Do the warm-ups. Learn the skills. But don’t neglect the deeper work:
Learn to trust your voice. Trust the gift. Trust the Giver.

Because when trust meets technique, something powerful happens. Your voice no longer just sings—it connects. And that’s what music was always meant to do.